In this 41:26 minute episode from the podcast Clear + Vivid – John and Julie Gottman: Welcome to the Love Lab hosted by Alan Alda, I learned the first question and a follow- up question to ask a person you don’t know or don’t know that well – after you’ve discovered their field of endeavour or job role.

You can use these deceptively powerful questions, when for example, you’re seated next to a person at a dinner party, or at pre-dinner drinks event or at a networking function et al.