Recently some of my clients have asked me how they should give bad news. While there are different types of bad news, here are general suggestions for delivering a ‘bad news’ message in a business environment, face to face interaction.
1. Connect with energy and certainty in your face, voice and body. (This means you should use an easily heard, energetic voice while you fully face the person and hold eye contact).
2. Make direct statements of what you can not do, and what you can do, paired with a leveling hand gesture. (This means making statements without qualifying words – eg. ‘might’, ‘maybe’, ‘possibly’ – while holding out one hand in front of you with the palm face down).
3. Use tag questions to keep control of the interaction. (This means using, as appropriate, short questions at the end of your statements, to get agreement from the other person. For example, “Are you fine with that?”
4. Close the interaction with energy and certainty in your voice, face and body. (Please see Point one).
5. Do what you say you would do. (This means you take the action you said you would when you said you would do it. For example, you phone the person at the time you said you would. If for some reason you are unable to do that, you phone them in advance to arrange another mutually agreeable time).
In practice – keeping in mind the above voice, face and body language suggestions – here is sample language for the opening of the interaction:
“Jan . . .got a moment? . . . Jan regarding the PAK solution, we’re not going to be able to deliver it by the 29th . . what I can do is deliver it by the 5th. Now at this time I can give you a 90% commitment of that delivery date . I want to give you a 100% commitment. To do that I need to do some work with my people over the next two days . . . so I want to do that work, and then I’ll phone you at 2:00pm sharp on Thursday to tell you the result of that work. Are you fine with that?”
If the ‘customer’ accepts that recommendation that’s good. If they don’t accept it you need to have other options for them.
The ‘how to apply’ for this post:
- Reflect on the above steps.
- Adapt them to your style and circumstances.
- Practice them in safe situations and reflect on their effectiveness.